Well, it’s January 3, 2018 and I have failed at every single resolution I made for this year.
Million dollars? Nope, not even close.
Lose 40 lbs? Nope, I think I gained some weight.
Be happier? What does that even mean? Be happier as compared to when?
Get my finances in order? Bwahahahahaha omg OK, I shouldn’t laugh. I mean how hard is it to keep track of seven dollars?
Let me check my list to see where else I’ve failed.
Physical goals, well I want to put my foot behind my head. Haven’t done that.
Emotional goals, that would be happier, right? Still, don’t know.
Financial goals, relationship goals, business goals, heart goals, healing goals.
How could I have failed in so many areas so quickly?
So, what’s the deal with resolutions? Why do we make them? Do they affect change? When do we know we’ve succeeded or failed? When do they fall off the radar?
As a health and wellness coach, I can tell you that EVERYONE resolves to be healthier in the New Year, and yet we all find ourselves back in the very same place a year later, only with bigger aspirations as our ASSpiration got a little bigger again this year.
Here is what I have learned since I made my first mini-resolution over 10 years ago. I’m not going to bore you with SMART because people don’t even listen to fancy words that spell it out for you.
What I have learned is that you need an immediate win. As immediate as you can make it. Let’s say a resolution of yours is to eat at home more. Well, you don’t want to immediately go from 20 meals out a week to 20 meals in. Let’s be realistic. Start with eating in once a week in January. If that works, bump it up to twice in February. There isn’t a rule saying you can’t make it three times a week sometimes, but you want to be able to reach your short term goal EVERY TIME. The wins will build on themselves and then you can stretch them. Don’t start with the end. Start with the end in mind.
If you want to lose 40 lbs. don’t start with that as a goal. Start with two if that’s what it takes to keep you focused. I will lose two pounds this week seems pretty immediate and attainable, where 40 pounds this year, seems like a problem for September Annie. 2 pounds this week and every week will get you to 40 lbs by June ish.
I have eight categories I’m always working on. There is no way I can stay focused and motivated by all of them all the time. Right now, I have to be focused on business. I’m in the building phase of my coaching, and yoga. I am also making my healing a high priority for this year. For those of you who haven’t yet been introduced to my story, I was abused as a child. As the years go on, I realize how much it affects me. My default feeling is fear, which I only recently realized. The more I address it, the more it falls away. When it falls away for the last time, it will create so much more room in my life I’ll be able to take on more other stuff.
As much as I would like to sell you a coaching package and tell you that I can guaran damn tee that you will reach all of your goals after six easy payments of $1,000 I also know that you have to be in a place where you are ready to do that work. You have to be clear on what you want. You have to be clear on where you are at the moment. Then you can work on the stuff that is keeping you from getting from here to there. You don’t have to get there today. If you take a step closer you have succeeded.
Until next time, be awesome!