Can we be real for a minute? I am going to help you UNlearn your way of thinking when it comes to your weight.
Five years ago, one question changed my life. Four little words.
Is that fear real?
I was working with a coach, and we were discussing limiting beliefs. He asked, “What are you afraid of?” He then instructed me to write down the two things that I feared most, in relation to becoming a health coach.
There was no hesitation in my answer. I am afraid that I do not know enough to be a health coach. Come on, I picked the industry known for failing its clients, 90% of the time. We are sicker and fatter than any generation in our history. There are quite literally, millions of health coaches in this country, and the best of the best have a 90% fail rate, more exposure, more resources. 90%. I’m freaking out.
I do not recall my second fear.
My coach then asked if my fear was even real. Well of course it is, I’m afraid, therefore, real.
Then he started to break it down. Did I know enough to help someone? Well, yeah. Had I helped someone. Of course.
“Sounds like you’re a health coach.”
What was I afraid of, if not that? What was the use of carrying around a false fear?
Here’s what I discovered. If I was afraid that I didn’t know enough, I could go to more classes, read more books, attend more seminars, get certified in another specialty. All good things, but it gave me an excuse not to do anything.
From that point on, I’ve held a different point of view in dealing with clients. Number one thing people ask me about, before the butter phase, has been, “How do I lose weight?” Well, that my friends is easy. Diet and exercise. Thank you, pay the lady at the front.
But your weight isn’t your problem. If it were, 60% of us wouldn’t be overweight or obese. We would lose the weight and be done with it.
Better questions to ask would be:
- What is the underlying cause of my weight?
- Do I have a health condition that is causing my weight?
- Do I have a habit that contributes to my weight?
- What payoff do I get from keeping my weight?
All of these are valid questions. I have hypothyroidism, but not really, my hypothyroidism is a symptom of my Hashimoto’s, an autoimmune disorder affecting the thyroid. I was treated for the symptom for 12 years before anyone even told me what my condition was. I am currently working on hacking that and it seems to be having some positive results. I’ll know more in a few months. Now the symptom of having low thyroid hormone, has caused the symptom of being tired, which attributes at times to my weight. If all I’m treating are the symptoms of the underlying cause, Hashimoto’s, I will be on this hamster wheel forever. Whether or not I will ever fully recover from leaving my underlying condition untreated for over a decade, remains to be seen. Maybe you have arthritis, or other diseases that cause pain. Depression, anxiety, the list goes on and on.
Another thing that attributes to any extra weight I carry, are my habits. Hello, my name is Annie, I like Cokes. When I resolved the Cokes issue, weight dropped off like crazy. The habit of not working out. The habit of watching tv five plus hours a day. All these habits can be changed.
Now, here is a hard one. What payoff do I get?
I’ve had clients who had always been the fat girl. What is Pitch Perfect without Fat Amy? You might want to brace yourself for this one moms. Do you blame your kids for being fat? “I take care of kids all day, I don’t have time for myself.” That one will always garner sympathy from other fat moms. The truth is you are neglecting yourself, and it will come back on you. I know. I did it for twenty years, and completely forgot who I was.
My whole point here is not to shame anyone, rather, I want you to approach this attempt at weight loss differently. Don’t focus on the weight, when you are healthy, the weight will take care of itself. As someone in the fitness and nutrition industry, I cannot promise anything other than results may vary.
I want you to take a moment and not focus on losing weight. Rather, what is it really that is causing you to be overweight. Is there a habit you can change? Do you need to consult a doctor regarding a health issue. Do you need to prioritize your own health? Take the focus off the macros your eating and look for something deeper.
Until next time,
My name is Annie, I am a Fitness and Nutrition UNstructor. I help women unlearn the bad habits, bad science, and misleading marketing that is keeping them from reaching their health goals.
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