Why You Are the Resistance Along Your Own Path
Why Do We Self-Sabotage the Life We Actually Want?
Oh queso, what happened was…
Law of attraction only attracts the things you need along your path. If we are going to give it credit for yachts and vacations we have to also give it credit for the narcissists and fuckboys. Which means — well crap — you are the resistance along your path.
Thank baby Jesus I am learning that lesson a lot sooner (see what I did there? Bwahaha) these days. Especially now that I don't have a kitchen floor to cry on.
Anyways
But Annie what about…. Yes that. And?… That too.
Have I figured out trauma? No I have not. I don't know why it visits us. I do know it made me stronger, and I do know I've used that strength to help others. Trauma survivors are some of the most amazing people I've ever met — I just don't know why they had to go through it to get there.
What I do know is that you and the bus were both there independently and of your own accord. The improbability of coincidence is incalculable. Should that ever be revealed to me I will for sure share it. Probably poorly.
Please refer back to when my friend got fired and I was soooo excited for their new opportunity. Apparently when friends get fired you are supposed to be "well that sucks" not Annie. Annie is "omg that's so exciting for you!" And yes hindsight being what it is, we can laugh and laugh now that he has his dream job, but Annie got zero friend points that day.
See also my encouraging Tedtalks on "you should have quit a long time ago," "you didn't even like dating him so stop crying," "what dumb decision did you make and when did you make it to get you here?" and "why are you even dating Republicans in the first place?"
I digress. Just reminding you that I am not the friend you call when you want a co-host to your own pity party. I try to be nice but it just isn't in my nature.
So, back to you being the resistance along your path.
But first. Let's talk the path of least resistance.
For me it's racing. I have no resistance to racing. I want to try scrutineering and the next thing you know I get an email asking if I want to scrutineer. I want to find paid opportunities and here ya go. I want a clipboard, here ya go. I want to meet someone and they come introduce themself to me. Usually in a golf cart because I did something stupid, but in the story I tell later it's "guess who I met today?"
That's an easy pill for me to swallow.
Being the resistance I encounter…? Not so much.
I get asked allllllllllllllllllllll the time why I'm single. You're so fun and adorable and blah blah blah I KNOW.
But I also know that I grew up with the toxic fairy tale fantasy of being rescued…by toxic prince charming who wanted a comatose princess raised by woodchucks and fairies. Not an opinionated loudmouth with plans of her own.
So if someone chose me I chose to overlook the times they took me off my path. That would only work for so long, then I'd be pissed off that I wasn't on my path and blame them. It took me wayyyy too fucking long to be "well that sounds like a great adventure for you, it's been fun, but this is where we need to part ways because if I go there it takes me off my path."
I'm still not great at it. But I am better. Sorry if my education in self development caused you any pain.
So I reject the fairy tale scenario.
I am open to loving and being loved by someone who is doing their work and appreciates and understands that I am doing mine and passes the marshmallow test and feeds it to me in a gourmet s'more. (Man I miss the gourmet s'more era all of a sudden) Bonus points for 😈 bad boys. But the point is — whoever shows up on my path shows up because we both got there at the same time. I get to decide if they're moving me forward or slowing me down.
I am the resistance on my path. But I do know that our paths intersect because we both got to that point in time and space at the same time for a reason.
If I was a lesson, you're welcome. I hope you realize what stupid decision you made and when you made it and where you should have bailed. But I accept that I played that role in your life (and well fuck it if that just didn't clear something right up for me)
If I pissed you off, you're welcome, I hope you used it well.
If I was an inspiration, you're welcome, I hope you do the damn thing.
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What does it mean to be the resistance along your own path? It means the biggest thing standing between you and the life you want is usually a pattern, a story, or a choice you keep making — and the moment you see it, you can't unsee it.
Why do we stay in relationships that take us off our path? Because most of us were raised on a fairy tale that taught us to wait for rescue instead of building the life we actually want.
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